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POLYANDRY

Bismillahirrahmaanirrahim..

Assalamualaikum wbt.

Tahniah utk semua yg mendapat manfaat daripada previous posting. Panjang sikit yg the latest punya, klw tak larat nak baca, save ja dulu. Bila2 free, bacala balik. Teman dah balik usm ni. Alhamdulillah, mcam2 yg tak penah dibayangkan dah dilalui dlm waktu2 permulaan semester ni. Suspend2 pulak tu =) segala puji bagi Allah yg masih memanjangkan umur insan lemah ini..moga semua muslimin muslimat kat luaq sana pun terus-terusan dlm jagaanNya..ameen..

K, tajuk 20 Most Common Question About Islam this episode is about polyandry, antagonist from polygamy. Please proceed your reading to know how Dr Zakir Abdul-Karim Naik answer this matter.. =)

Question:

If a man is allowed to have more than 1 wife, then why does Islam prohibit (mengharamkan) a woman from having more than 1 husband?

Answer:

A lot of people, including some Muslim, question the logic of allowing Muslim men to have more than 1 spouse than 1 spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.

Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation (dasar) of an Islamic society is justice and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different capabilities and different responsibilities, physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different. Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical (sama tapi tak serupa).

The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:

1. If a man has more than 1 wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than 1 husband, only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of both, mom and dad. Psychologist tell us that children who do not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and disturbance. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for this reason that the children of prostitutes (pelacur) do not have a healthy childhood. If a child born of such wedlock (ikatan perkahwinan) is admitted to school, and when the mother is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names! I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus, this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the present.

Tapi mmg dah boleh kenal pasti dah sekarang, pakai DNA test. Nampaknya apa yg dikhuatirkan dr zakir dah pun terjadi reality. Tp takpa, ada lagi point dr ni. Jgn risau..=)

2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to woman

3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. a woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.

4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted disease which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than 1 wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.

The above reasons are those that 1 can easily identified. There are probably many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.

Teman nak tambah sikit point yg teman dapat dari bengkel multiculture, brother Lim ada bagi hujah, dia kata org laki dijadikan boleh mencintai lebih dari sorg perempuan at the same time but women cannot..as a women, teman stuju..as a man pulak, what is your view? =) terus terangla..takpa..

Retyper,

Bintubahariyah,

08/07/07,

USM.